Karan Mehra’s Wife And Actress Nisha Rawal Clarifies She Isn’t Pregnant, Writes A Long Note On Being ‘Belly Shamed’!

Ladies, raise your hands if you have a visibly bulging tummy and you have been shamed for it! Well, sadly it is rather common for women to be shamed for having a tummy that’s prominent because that does not fit the notion of a beautiful woman, as many might say. If one is in the glamour industry, they have to strive extra hard to conform to this notion of beauty. In fact, if you are married on top of that, many would very simply assume that you might be pregnant! Something similar happened to Nisha Rawal. Nisha, who had been a TV actress herself before bidding goodbye to the industry after her wedding to Karan Mehra (known for playing Naitik in Yeh Rishta Kya Kehlata Hai) is now a happy mom too. Recently, she had put up a picture of herself and people began to ask her whether she was pregnant because of a bulging belly.

Now, Nisha took to her social media to clarify that she is not pregnant. She also wrote a long note explaining how she had been belly shamed and that this is for the third time that she is writing about it! She wrote, “BELLY-SHAME!

This picture was clicked yesterday & ‘No! I ain’t pregnant’ & ‘Yes! I have a belly’

This must be my 3rd elaborate post on shaming!
Shame, 1stly is the strongest of human emotions! The victim withdraws into his shell.
It never did anyone, any good!
Belly shame is one of the many kinds of shaming we have in our stigmatised society!

I have always had a tummy. It would become smaller or bigger depending on my fitness regime but would never go away!
I was always ashamed of it & that made me do things that would either injure me by beating myself up in the gym doing crunches until my muscles went into a cramp or would do the opposite with my hog-sprees!

After we got married, all eyes were even more on my tummy! And now they had the audacity of transforming into questions, at the red carpet, in the lift, in interviews, coffee shops: ‘Are u pregnant?’
While I was like, ‘Am I supposed to be or am I even supposed to answer that question or should I work more on my belly, and towards the end of it, that shame would make me indulge more, making it a vicious cycle!

See that’s what shaming does, it just makes the victim do more of what he is shamed about.

We all have shamed someone, knowingly or unknowingly because our culture conditions us to believe it’s normal to ask anyone,
‘Hey why all the weight?’
‘Don’t u eat anything?’
‘You must be dieting too much’,
and on goes the list!

And after we have babies, except for a rare, few women, our bellies are never the same!
They sag and have stretch marks!
We won’t wear a bikini, won’t have sex with lights on and would suddenly become so conscious of the bodies we have lived in all our lives!

It’s not easy to accept this new found body post birth.

But let’s atleast hold each other’s hands and try!
Let’s uplift each other!
A few stretch marks and a changed belly does not change our soul!
Let’s learn to love ourselves
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♥️ We have all been victims and culprits of shame! Let go of this stigma! Let in the love!
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♥️ I am listening, if you wish to share anything!
Sharing is therapy to our heart!?
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Also tag a friend who you feel might need to read this post! .

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Kudos for this, Nisha. It was high time that this was put up and women are accepted as she is!